Jealousy

If you are in a relationship with someone who is jealous and you think they are the only one with the problem " My partner is jealous , it sits with the problem - . Not I, " then maybe you should reconsider.

A relationship is just that, a relationship between two people. Not a single person . If one person in the relationship is jealous , trust me when I say that it affects both people in the relationship and it is a problem for both of you. Jealousy is an extremely painful feeling , real or inbillande so make it always hurts. The throwing of the senses and may be for some hard to remove .

No one can say for sure what jealousy is, try to define it is elusive . As a complex feeling it's about, at least those painful emotions like fear , abandonment, loss, grief , anger , betrayal , envy, and humiliation. However, like all emotions, born of necessity, with roots deep in our evolutionary past. Are these a purpose from the beginning, helping to maintain close relationships, defend and preserve social ties .

 

When you feel a wave of jealousy, so please respond with your reptilian brain and becomes afraid of being abandoned by your partner. This is at a deeper level a genetic alarm and natural controversy , do you think that "it 's okay , it 's just my reptile brain and Neanderthal gene that appears to defend my partner " The last thing on your mind is probably your genes when you see your loved one flirting with an attractive person. Maybe we should have developed a more calm relaxed feeling and not feel jealous today because our penchant to change partners frequently , actually divorce rate attests. We're just not that interested in saving our closest relationships in the same way anymore.

 

There are those who claim that they never have this feeling as jealousy , I think they 're kidding a little. These feelings are that I wrote before anything we have from time immemorial. The difference today is that many have learned through good self and good self-confidence not to act and react with their emotions. They sense a little bit and can tackle this by not acting out against their partner , while the others like sulky children may throw himself on the bed , crying , screaming, threatening and accusing . Or is completely silent as punishment .

 

Those jealousy in its grip blames normally it on their partner because it gives more attention to others. Take responsibility for making healthy changes in your life is a big key to overcome jealousy and that is where it must start. Jealousy can burn a hole in the brain and the fear of being abandoned by the partner becomes a prophecy of the end. The confirmation you miss actually do that drives away the one you love instead of getting them closer.

 

What I want to call for sound rational jealousy, which is a passionate concern and respect for the relationship ( even if
I prefer your love , I need never a guarantee that), can help us take care of our partner's feelings without anger, self-criticism and despair that characterizes the neandertalares jealousy. Although the experience of being jealous can be painful it's bound to us to pay attention and react when something is wrong in the relationship. Most of them have ever experienced jealousy and it's good to have known how it feels to be able to react before it goes so far that the partner leaving .

 

Some claim that jealousy is an important sense for us not to roll on in our rut and take everything for granted , others argue that all the jealousy is unhealthy and bottoms of poor self esteem / confidence. Whatever you think , there is jealousy around us and is a feeling that quickly takes over common sense .

 

Psychology professor David Buss. He sees jealousy as a way to keep the passion alive and that jealousy makes us aware of our partners and that jealousy justifies that there is an effort to keep the love alive. When the partner becomes jealous shows she or he that relationships are important and worth fighting for . Care partner not care if you are flirting and allow themselves courted by others interpret the other hand, what if the relationship is not particularly valuable.

 

David Buss argues that the experience of having known jealousy learn to interpret signals that it is time to make an extra effort ahead of the one you love. Jealousy Need not then do not harm a relationship ( as long as there is a rational jealousy ) if you are humble towards each other. It's okay for a partner to get jealous now and then , help each other and work through it together , it's the smartest way to keep your relationship strong.

 

Last but not least , realize what you get by loving them in confidence. While the trust does not expose us to the risk of another person's betrayal, is actually the opposite worse, to never trust a person and never to learn what it feels like to trust reproduced.

28 May 2014